Then you got pregnant and I thought to myself, wow, it's going to be interesting to see what kind of mother Brittany becomes... And so I started paying more and more attention to see how you were handling it. And quite honestly, I was surprised to see that you remained in the limelight at all. I thought once you had your beautiful son that you would have sort of faded away. I guess I thought that because that is what I would have done. I would have bought a big 'ol chunk of property and secluded myself with my family and enjoyed all the stability I could provide them. I also would have left Kevin in effing California to play golf every morning and record his ridiculous record. Alone.
But unlike other mothers, you apparently were able to have the kind of parenting responsibilities that allowed you to skip that part of the bonding process that causes you to feel like you need to be the one taking care of your kids. I don't think you actually felt like you were the best person. I honestly believe that is what makes a mother, at her core - believing that they are the only person in the world who could care for their kids the way they need to be cared for.
It's sad to me that you have the kind of lifestyle that prevented you from having that. It's sad to me that you have that kind of love for your work and not your kids. And it's also sad to me that this is probably not completely your fault.
Money seeking people are fucked up and since you are surrounded by people who want to have more of your money, they aren't giving you the best advice. Which is why I am writing you this letter today.
I feel thoroughly and genuinely terrible for you. I think that you haven't been given direction and that you have repeatedly been given bad advice. And as a person who is not making any money off of you, I would like to tell you this: Buy a nice home somewhere far away from where you are now, make it a home for your boys and get rid of all of the people in your life who are influencing these decisions. Get a therapist and then start doing all of the stuff normal people do on their own on your own and put your music career on hold long enough to get a hold of your personal life. Be a mom.
There are probably thousands of mothers out there who would listen to you, help you and be there for you. Thousands of people who aren't going to be blinded by your stardom. Find those people and find yourself.
Very sincerely,
Katehopeeden
Labels: Being Mommy, unsolicited advice
