Ok... so that is probably not fair but... oh well. If you are a guy and you don't feel like being generalized right now, move on. Because in my recent experiences, men just suck.
Ok, so I know this chic, whom we will refer to as A -yeah you know who you are- who has gone through legal HELL with her ex and their child and I have always felt just awful for her. When I talked to my ex tonight, I thought shit I need to talk to A...
That mother fucking prick. He just gets off on being an asshole. But before we get into exactly how big of a jerk he is, let me say now in all honesty that I have NO feelings left over for this guy. I think that ending our relationship was possibly one of the top five BEST decisions that I have ever made! Ok, so I call him a few times a week so that he can talk to Trin. It is better for me to call him so that we can get Trin when she is in a good mood and I am not too busy to hold the phone up to her head and coerce her into saying things for her father. Well I have called him a few times this week and repeatedly gotten his answering machine. I ALWAYS leave a message because I don't want him to later say that I never called. Well I called today and got the machine. I silently thanked my lucky stars and then went on about my day. Well he called back tonight and Trin talked to him for a few minutes. I tried to get her to talk and she did some 'the cow says moo, the horsey says neigh' things for him but after a few minutes she wants to go. She is two, the phone isn't exactly fun for her. So afterwards, as has become our routine, I try and update him on how she is doing. Well after I do he says: Kate, I need to talk to you. I promised my girl friend that I wouldn't hold back anymore with you. Because you see, I have been biting my tongue and not saying the things I want to say to you.
Then he proceeds to ask me what it is that I want from him. This is off the wall and I am not prepared to get all argumentative. So, I just tell him that I don't expect anything from him except for him to be a good father.
He is all like 'hmmmm mmmm' like your therapist would say. Oh yeah, BTW, that is what he is in school for. I WILL NEVER GET A THERAPIST NOW, not with that condescending bullshit tone. That I know what you are thinking and you don't attitude.
He then proceeds to tell me that he can't believe anything that I say because he doesn't trust me. He actually laughs while he is saying this and says 'you don't expect me to believe/trust you do you? Like this is some mutual inside joke rather than a clear insult. (Remember HE cheated on me, not the other way around) So I just asked him why in the hell he even bothered asking me then if he doesn't even believe me! You know what that pompous fuck said??? He says 'I can read between the lines. I just asked you the question to see how you would answer. Then I could see what you really mean...'
CAN YOU FUCKING BELIEVE THAT??
Yeah so, as you can imagine this conversation went downhill from there. He basically said that our daughter was a financial and emotional burden on him and that he knew this was going to happen which is why he wanted me to have the abortion. So, I told him if she was such a burden then he could sign his rights away, I'll have the papers drawn up on Monday. He changed his tone REAL quick then.
He basically said he wants to come down here and set visitation sometime this year or early next year because he doesn't think that we are going to be able to work it out ourselves... Besides, his girl friend thinks it's a good idea.
~Kate
